De Escalation.
Bing AI Chat Box says, “De-escalation is a human behavior that is intended to prevent the escalation of conflicts. It may also refer to approaches in conflict resolution. People may become committed to behaviors that tend to escalate conflict, so specific measures must be taken to avoid such escalation1.
In psychiatric settings, de-escalation is aimed at calmly communicating with an agitated client in order to understand, manage and resolve their concerns. Ultimately, these actions should help reduce the client’s agitation and potential for future aggression or violence2.”
Thoughts precede actions. Thoughts are habits. We have certain ways of thinking that are habits of thought. We have certain phrases that we think of often. The thought – “don’t threaten me” – is a phrase that can be used often to bring about the mindset that follows the thought. It creates an attitude. It is the habitual thought that creates the attitude and not the attitude that creates the thoughts. Perhaps both always happen together. All told, Human behavior on planet earth is a dehumanizing disaster in progress.
What is needed here is a personality change. Sometimes people change from how they were in the past. We change with thoughtful observation or our experience from ourselves and others. We observe what works and what does not work.
Similar phrases that escalate: “Don’t make me angry” and “You are starting to bug me” These phrases “draw a line” they demand something from the others. Try using the phrase, ” Don’t do me wrong.” This is an agreeable demand from everyone. We must all agree to not do others wrong or there will be disaster.
If someone refuses our demand, there are consequences. We do not do the punishing ourselves. The lesson is taught to all of us from the one that has all power and has all authority. I am an atheist while others are not atheists. There is one totality of everything that is. It is every event that happens to us.
What is it that we really want from ourselves and others? We want everything to stop doing us wrong. We don’t want to be walked on. We want to be cared about. We want to be important. We want to be powerful. We want to be in control. You will need the boss’s help. We simply do not have the power on our own.
Who is the boss? I am not the boss, and you are not the boss and they are not the boss. I don’t think you will be successful unless the boss is helping you. So, who is the boss? The boss is the one that has all the power and all the authority. The boss is the totality of all that is. A house divided cannot stand. To get help from the boss you must serve the boss. We must be serving the totality of all that is. Because of our human ego problem, we must surrender totally to the boss that is the totality of all that is.